When we criticize others or feel triggered by another, it is simply because we are rejecting that same thing within ourselves. If we are rejecting something in us, then we have resistance or blocks. Where there are blocks, energy cannot flow. If the rejection has to do with money, then wealth cannot flow our way. Once we learn to accept and fully love that part of us we reject, the energy channels open up and in floods our wealth.

Whether we like it or not, we have all character traits within us. The more we embrace the good, bad and the ugly about us, the less we get triggered and judge others. And as you will from the process below… often the traits we deem ‘negative’ have positive aspects.

Let us look at an example to demonstrate as well as the steps you need to release triggers:

Step One - The Trigger:

I am irritated while listening to a friend talk about her debt. In my mind I am saying, “well maybe if you weren’t so irresponsible, you wouldn’t be in debt. Maybe you should think twice before buying two dresses you didn’t need.”

Step Two - Identify the Rejection:

I noticed my negative mind chatter and asked myself “What trait in her am I triggered by? What is in her that I am rejecting in myself?” It is being irresponsible – specifically in this case, financially.

Step Three- Acknowledge it:

“I acknowledge that something in me can’t fully accept that I have an irresponsible trait in me.”

Step Four - Find Compassion:

I have to find compassion for my friend, but mostly myself. I ask myself “When have I been financially irresponsible? Oh last year I put a vacation on credit card without knowing where I would get the money to pay for it.”

Knowing I too have been irresponsible allows me compassion for my friend and the realization that my judgments have nothing to do with her. It is my own issues. It also helps me identify where I am holding guilt, anger or sadness over an action I have taken.

Step Five - Unleash the Blessing:

“I thank my friend for being a mirror to me and showing me what it is in me that is causing me to block the flow of good energy coming my way. It is a blessing I have been financially irresponsible. I was unbelievably exhausted and really needed a break. Had I not been irresponsible, I would have kept working, eventually leading me to be ill.”

Step Six – Forgiveness & Acceptance:

“I understand that as long as I do not accept that I have all character traits within in, even those that seem negative, I will be rejecting and denying my true self. I can fully forgive myself for being so hard on myself. I know that being financially irresponsible has served me, allowing me to have some play time and take care of my body. It no longer serves me to hold onto this guilt. I release it, knowing that all aspects of me are perfect and lovable just as they are.”

Step Seven -Love Yourself

Now I need to take time to do something for me. I will nurture myself with good music, friends, a bubble bath, a good book, walk in the park…

So whenever you feel triggered, upset by something or find yourself judging another, recognize that they are simply mirrors to something in you that you are rejecting. Be willing to go through the 7 step process so you can release judgments, clear the blocks, open up your energy and be the pure light you are.

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