Many times in our lives we get into situations where say to ourselves, “I feel trapped. I have no control. How am I going to solve this monster?” When we are facing an obstacle that we have no control over, to wine about it will not make it go away. In fact, it will keep you powerless and stuck, creating long term misery.  In shifting perspective, we can transform what seems like an impossible obstacle into the possible, creating amazing solutions!

Step One: Identify and accept the situation if you have direct control over it

Certain things in life we can not change no matter what we try to do. We can’t change that our child got hit by a drunk driver, our spouse cheated on us or that we lost our job. To stay in denial traps you from creating a solution. Look objectively at your situation and accept ‘what is’ that you can not change.

Step Two: Acknowledge Your Feelings

As long as you are trying to put on a brave face, you are suppressing your true feelings which in turn causes resistance and negativity. Those monsters will hinder your ability to create positive solutions and allow the flow of good to come your way. You need to acknowledge your feelings. It is okay and normal to feel sad, angry, resentful, etc. Allow yourself to really feel it - scream it out, journal about it, dance, draw or anything else you need to do to express it. Often in releasing it, a sense of peace and possibility emerge.

Step Three: Shift Perspective to Create Solutions

Ask yourself, “What is the core issue that seems impossible to shift? What is the opposite of that?”

So if your spouse cheated on you, the opposite would be “I want to have a partner who is faithful.” And when you focus on that, a couple of things may happen: a) You and your current partner start talking about the silent issues you have keeping inside and transform your relationship to be far more fulfilling, open and communicative OR b) You split and in time you find another partner.  This new relationship is the true partnership you have been longing for all along. Now let’s thank your ex-spouse for cheating because you are much happier now. Plus in your previous relationship, you also ended up realizing that  you were stuck in the comfortableness of it and settling for something that wasn’t truly what you desired.

Let me share my current situation to further demonstrate how this works: In immigrating to the US recently, I had to spend thousands of dollars - unexpected money I hadn’t accounted for - just to rent an apartment, rent a car and so on until I can get some credit (Canadian credit doesn’t count) and a social security number (needed to buy or lease a car).  I have no control over US systems so why fight what I can not change?

So the issue is that I am wasting money. The opposite is creating money. Now I can spin my wheels, fighting with systems I am powerless to change or I can walk through the open door and see miracles. When I focus on the possibilities instead, I see myself selling thousands of dollars worth of books & CD’s, singing and speaking at many events where I am paid generously for it, etc. The abundance I see flowing to me is so enormous that I don’t even feel the unnecessary money I am putting out. It far outweighs it. I know this works, because already some beautiful opportunities are flying my way.

Remember, when things seem impossible, keep the faith and be willing to work through your emotions so you can shift perspective. Something amazing is just on the other side. All you need to do is turn away from the closed door and walk through the one that is open and calling you.

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